5 ways to disconnect worry
Worry can be crippling and paralyse people and affect lives in so many ways. The best strategy is to plan to worry at a time that best suits you.
The worry plan works by picking a time of day when the worry can be worried about. For example, if your worry time is 9pm, during the day if an issue comes up, that you choose to worry about rather than be pro-active about, pop it on your list to worry about at 9pm.
When an issue arises ask yourself some basic questions before you just put it on the worry list:
1. Can I control this issue? Is it about me?
2. What is in my control?
3. Is there something I can do to fix this issue? If there is will I do this or will I send the problem to the worry time?
4. Is it time to do what relaxes me?
5. Am I okay?
When worry gets out of control sometimes people can’t even follow the above strategies because the worrying has been happening for too long. Society has to help people believe there is help out there and the best start is to speak to someone about the crippling feeling.
Caz says
Setting aside our worries until a certain time of day sounds like rather good advice,I really should try that.
Dave C says
That is very good advice Shaz. I wonder how many people dont even know that they are worried about something or worry cos they have nothing to worry about?
We cannot just simply tell someone to “stop worrying” but postponing it is a possibility – I wonder how many people would even just forget all about it by the time they got to “worry time” or the problem just fixes itself or they even find a solution in their subconscious where most of our thinking is done? How often do we just step away from a frustrating task, like an assignment for example, take a breath, collect our thoughts then come back and attack it with new found vigour?
I have often wondered what the difference between worry and thinking about finding a solution to a problem is? I guess when we are in worry mode we are only thinking about dispair and negative outcomes and the chances of finding a solution in that frame of mind are pretty much zero. I like your 5 step plan and understanding a problem properly is the vital first step in solving it. Speaking to someone, even a friend, is a great idea as they can help us put our thoughts in perspective and provide a catalyst for solving or living with an issue. There are always answers to every problem otherwise if we were to accumulate 5 worries per day and not solve them or forget about them then we would accumulated over 82,000 by the time we were 45! Looking at some people, perhaps that is the case!
GREAT TIME TO REFER PEOPLE BACK TO YOUR RECENT POST ABOUT NOT SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF https://www.letsleepingblogslie.net/2012/07/07/live-each-day/