In a Facebook community page, a desperate Mum asked members what she could do about her 3-year-old refusing to sleep in her own bed, but after many comments and three helpful ones, her thoughts hardly changed!
Hi Mummas, Any tips on getting a 3 year old to sleep in her own room? I’ve tried sitting in there with her, picking her own bedding even letting her pick her decorations for it. She has a bed in our room at the moment and she’s just so afraid to be in her own room. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated -Desperate Mum.
Comments 8,11 and 12 have the answer, but desperate Mum didn’t listen to anyone. After all of the comments, she wrote:
Thanks ladies, looks like I’m just going to have to keep at it and try and get her to understand that it’s not scary in her. Also I think maybe she thinks her room is still to babyish and it needs a “big girl” make over haha.
1 My daughter is the same and 3 and will not go in her own room I have tried everything even letting her fall asleep then moving her to her own bed but it last for about 2 hours then she’s awake crying for me but when she’s in with me she sleeps through the night. So glad to hear others have the same issue i thought i might be doing something wrong.
2 I put my miss 4 in my bed and when I’m ready to go to bed I normally just pick her up and put her in her room when I first started doing it she used to wake but now she is used to it and sleeps right through
3 How long did it take before she started sleeping through the night?
2 A while it takes a lot of work probably around 6 months I know it’s frustrating but the end result is awesome
4 Yep. Miss nearly 5 is the same. Has only been since last year when we moved.
5 3.5 and it takes me 1-3 hours every night to get him to sleep. Nothing has worked so far . Following.
6 maybe you could try reverse psychology and tell her only big girls sleep in their own room
7 keep persisting at it. She will adapt to what will be her new routine. Just be confident in yourself and what you are doing she will learn from you and know it’s ok 🙂
I have a 2yr and 3yr old; ) Good luck x
7 I always keep it sweet and simple when talking to my kids through change as you’re negotiating with them if you keep continuing to answer their questions..
8 You just have to keep at it.. It will be exhausting but it will happen.. Every time they get out of bed just put them straight back and eventually you won’t have troubles at all.. Good luck !
9 Have fairy lights and maybe soft music, spend time in her room having fun during the day and before bed, try lying with her for a few nights till she falls asleep, then start moving towards the door a bit each night.
10 Try the gradual withdrawal method. Start by staying with her till she falls asleep. Get her used to sleeping in her room first. Once she’s a bit more comfortable with this start leaving the room periodically. Tell her you have to go to the bathroom.
11 Every time she gets up out of bed put her back in it without talking to her or looking her in the eyes. My partner was told this by a specialist with his oldest. It’s heart breaking I know but it will get easier
12 I think take the bed out of your room and only have her bed in her room. You will have to be firm and just keep taking her back to her bed – it could take 30 times a night, but persist. When you take her back do not enter into any conversation or eye contact. In the morning reward – maybe a sticker chart.
This Mum needs to get serious as her behaviour is giving the child mixed signals. No child is going to sleep in their own bed if there is a better option!!
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