Husband and wife but living separate lives

Husband and wife but living separate lives


Husband and wife but living separate livesThe Australian 2011 Census second release data will be available at the end of the month, however, questions about sharing lives and rooms, after you have ticked you are married, is not one of the questions.

First release data of the Census was released on 21 June 2012. The second release data will be on 30 October 2012.

I think a national personal questionnaire would be interesting and possibly useful. Maybe this could be added to the standard Census. People are not going to reveal personal matters on a national level easily, however, if it was confidential, like the main Census, this could really reveal some inner truths. Such information could be helpful to therapists, employers, businesses and almost anyone over 18-years-of-age.

On one level  the internet already provides us with so much more information than we have ever had. Lives today might seem more complicated than ever before, but people are also a lot more communicative.

A nuclear family is described as a wife/mother, a husband/father, and their children. However, this straightforward structural definition is now surrounded by ambiguity and controversy: people have been together for many years but never marry; people are married but chose not to live together; people are married and live under the same roof; but live separate lives; people are married and live great lives together but choose to live apart; people have several partners.

And some personal questions about individual health and diet habits, personality traits and hobbies would assist certain community groups.

Some questions could include:

1. Do you and your partner have an ‘open relationship’ (ie. free to have sexual intercourse with others). And if so with which sex (male or female)?

2. On a scale of 1 to ten how important is marriage?

3. On a scale of 1 to ten how important is fidelity?

4. When you go to sleep at night how do you normally feel? 1. anxious 2. happy 3. angry 4. confused 5. worried 6. depressed 7. tired 8. emotional 9. sad 10. relaxed.

5. Do you try and eat healthy foods?

Questionnaires are conducted on a small scale, but I think a national level would be much more intriguing and helpful.




  1. Dave C says

    Wow Shaz – I reckon if people were totally honest you would uncover some very interesting information about what is going on out there!!! If that information was made public I think it would ease the stress on many people who may feel weird about not being “normal” or conformist by choice.

    Your readers might find interesting this recent article in the daily mail:
    This couple live next door to each other and enjoy not having to put up with each other’s annoying habits. They say: “we re-invented our own version of married life with a different kind of love which, for me, runs deeper than ever before. It doesn’t rely on being constrained or tied down – instead, we have freedom that means we stay faithful and spend time together because we want to, not because we feel obliged”.

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