No sleep in
Working out sleep habits is important in a marriage/relationship. If one person wants to sleep half the day away and the other person wants to do things – this is fine now and again, but not every weekend.
Some parents take turns on who gets up to the kids and I guess the most important thing is both people feel they are getting a fair share. Sometimes people fall into the selfish basket too quickly: “I work all week”, “I get up to the kids all week” – the best way is to think both people are doing their fair share and both need to feel needed and have their rest time.
I guess it is important to also work out what the person will do if the other person sleeps in. Outline what is expected by both parties: the kids organised; housework; be ready to go out etc.
If you sleep in a house with housemates and some sleep in half of the day – what are the noise rules? I think all parties need to be realistic and also mindful of others’ needs.
I heard a Father tell his daughter the other day – he couldn’t watch her play sport on Saturday morning because he had to sleep in: “You know I need my sleep in”, he said. Well, the girl (with her head bowed) just accepted it as I guess other compromises are also part of their relationship.
Of course some of us love sleep ins – I am one of these people – especially because I go to bed late. However, if there is something on that my daughter is involved in – I set the alarm and get up and forego my sleep in.
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I think a person letting their partner sleep in after a hectic week or late nite is a really nice thing to do but only if it is occasional or reciprocated.
Wow, how could a parent look their child in the eye and say that? Couldnt they have a more excusable excuse like I have to work or I have an appointment. Not condoning lying but really – “my sleep in is more important than you”? Hopefully the other parent takes the place of good role model in that regard?
I am involved with kids sport and unfortunately I see that a lot. Kids get over it I suppose and try to look for other redeeming qualities in their parent – at least they let them play sport? Unfortunately one day the parent wakes up to an empty house and wonders what happened and what they missed whilst they slept and why their grown up kids and grand kids never visit – perhaps they are sleeping in? Hope not, they surely would have seen how selfish and damaging that was.